Once upon a time there was a Soul. It came into this world with certain gifts, mission and uniqueness which was given only to her (let’s just say it was a “her,” although it could definitely be a “he”). Then there came parents, teachers, relatives, neighbors, colleagues, bosses, beloveds, and the soul started to become a Human. This human being started to detach from its soul, purpose and gifts in order to “be liked”, “be like everyone else”, “fit in.” In other words, “Conditioning” was born.
This “beast” becomes apparent most of all in the new environment where all the unnaturalness, and fakeness becomes vivid at just one glance. However, the thing is – even though this unnaturalness is seen by others, we are often left in illusion that we are rooted in our “naturalness” and “ease.” However, it’s impossible to hide from discomfort. In the new environment which might be totally different from the one we are used to, we see completely different people – those who don’t care what others think of them, those who express themselves the way their nature not the environment tells them to. All of a sudden we stop understanding, what it is really like – “be like everyone else.”
In the Osho Zen Tarot Cards mystic Osho says the following about conditioning:
“Unless you drop your personality, you will not be able to find your individuality. Individuality is given by existence; personality is imposed by the society. Personality is social convenience. Society cannot tolerate individuality, because individuality will not follow like a sheep. Individuality has the quality of the lion; the lion moves alone. The sheep are always in the crowd, hoping that being in the crowd will feel cozy. Being in the crowd one feels more protected, secure. If somebody attacks, there is every possibility in a crowd to save yourself. But alone? Only lions move alone.
Every one of you is born a lion, but the society goes on conditioning you, programming your mind as a sheep. It gives you personality, a cozy personality, nice, very convenient, very obedient. Society wants slaves, not people who are absolutely dedicated to freedom. Society wants slaves because all the vested interests want obedience.”
There is a piece of good news and it is that we are all conditioned, in one way or another. That means you are not alone in your problem. The bad news is that conditioning gets in our way when we want to reach our goals, make correct decisions and interact in the right way with other people, show off our individuality, to create.
First of all, we have to admit that we are conditioned. We need to see this “beast” and get ourselves familiar with it. We also need to accept that our conditioning might be connected with that specific place, environment, personality. Second, in order to de-condition ourselves, we need to remember who we were born as, what gifts we brought into this world, and in order to do that, we’ll have to peel ourselves – layer after layer, condition after condition. This process might take some time, so we need to be patient. For that we might use different writing techniques, body practices, and also we might get a reading done from a professional in Human Design and Gene Keys systems which deal with those specific things: tell you about you, about that potential encoded in your DNA, and give you the keys to return to your unique nature.
What else can we do?
We can find that circle of people where our creative abilities might be revealed, and it doesn’t matter in what area they lie – we can approach even accountancy with creativity, no problem. How was it in that old Zen fable? A lion was brought up by sheep, and for a long time the lion thought of itself as a sheep until another lion took him to the pond so that it could see its reflection in the water. We are all like that lion, and our self-image is derived from who we are interacting and meeting with, what we keep hearing about ourselves, how our bosses give us feedback, etc. That said, opinion of others affects us indeed, no matter how much we would love to run away from that.
It’s time to learn about our true nature. We don’t need to change, all we need to do is to go back to our present, to that soul we were born to be. The process of returning is exciting, incredibly amazing, and yes, unpredictable. The final result might be full of surprises, but don’t wait for anything and estimate asking yourself “when this is going to finally happen.” “This” is happening already now at this moment while you are reading these words. Looking back after some time, a lot of things become clear and understandable, and the road that you’ve been walking will show the positive changes that happened within and outside of you.
Human Design says that it takes seven years to go through the complete the de-conditioning process. This number is not accidental: the first seven years is all it takes for our parents to give us the “in-put” of whatever they feel is fit, and the main “conditions” end up steadily in our cells. Needless to say that our parents don’t hold any malicious intent. However, we should also remember that the road to hell is paved with the best intentions there are. That said, the de-conditioning process also takes about seven years. This is a very important piece of information for parents: the first seven years in the child’s life and Soul are the most important ones.
It’s time to destroy that self-image that we’ve created because of others. There, in the past, we had to believe in it in order to “be just like everybody else and not to stand out from the crowd.” But the sleeping lion will still be a lion, and it’s time to wake him up. As the Osho card says, let’s dance, run, talk nonsense, do anything and everything in order to wake this sleeping lion inside of ourselves. Yes, the lion might appear as an outsider, but he is an outsider only among the sheep. At the end of the day it’s up to us whether we want to belong to the flock or want to grow that creative rebel inside of ourselves and let our Souls be in the open again.